There is also a hotline number to call at any point if you are in a crisis mode or need help of any kind.
The trauma does not just stop because you have left the relationship. This trauma has a life long effect and it should be recognized as such, and you should not be ashamed because of it.
I get asked a lot about things that you can say to someone that is going through abuse, or how to help them process it. YOU NEED TO VALIDATE THEM AND THEIR FEELINGS. Below are some validating statements that you could use:
*You make a lot of sense.
*I understand why you feel that way.
*I want to understand your feelings, can you tell me more about that?
*That must have been really painful for you.
*What's that like for you?
*It makes sense that you would react the way you did, given that this brings up your fear of:
*Do you want to talk about how you're feeling?
*I admire your vulnerability.
*It's ok to feel what you're feeling right now.